My mother
Would spend hours talking to parents at Chinese school, long after classes let out
She would stay behind at any Chinese party or linger in the parking lot to talk until we were kicked out
In this way, I learned to talk on the phone for hours, but only once in a blue moon. And I always walk people to the last spot until we are forced to separate
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My mother
Hoarded cans of SlimFast and energy bars throughout my childhood
Dieting phases came and never really left, just morphed
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My mother
Was separated from her siblings by an ocean and an immigration system that tied her to her job
She squeezed life into small boxes of stolen hours and calling cards
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My mother
Sought desperately to be full of relationships, while living in a house with a man who makes her feel more alone with his presence
My mother
Asks me to come home to Ohio so I can motivate her to walk around the neighborhood, alleviate her blood pressure by traveling 3 blocks
My mother
Tried to make herself smaller so her desire for social interaction could fill the void within
But it was never small enough
And time was never full enough
My mother’s daughter
I understand the feeling.